Wording Help

We are often asked by our couples, how to correctly word wedding invitations, so we thought we'd write a few notes to bear in mind when composing your wording invitation.

Things to consider are; who is hosting (i.e paying for it), what type of event are you having and how formal and traditional do you intend it to be? If you like things traditional, here's some pointers on scribing your wedding invitations and following certain wedding invite etiquette.

Setting the scene

Firstly, state who is hosting the wedding and therefore who is inviting the guests. Historically, this honour fell to the parents of the bride as they were paying for the wedding, but these days it can be from both sets of parents or the couple themselves.

When adding your own names, tradition dictates that the bride's first and middle names are used but not her title. The bride's surname is usually not included if her parents are hosting the wedding and has already been mentioned, but would be used if the couple are hosting the wedding themselves.

Staying with tradition, the groom's name would include his title, first name, middle name and surname and the bride's name is always written before the groom's. With same-sex weddings, the name of the person whose parents are paying would appear first, or if both sets of parents are contributing, or the couple are hosting themselves, there are no set rules, just what sounds best. Maybe list names alphabetically or how you are known as a couple.

Next, you need to request the company of your guests, which can be done in a few different ways, for example...

Please join us in celebrating the marriage of our daughter (if bride’s parents are hosting)

Please join us in celebrating our marriage (if couple are hosting themselves)

Other examples: 

... request the honour of ...

... request the pleasure of...

... would be delighted for you to attend...

... invite you to attend ...

... invite you to join them in celebrating ...


Where and When

The date of your big day should now follow. Traditionally, the date is written as - day, date, month, year, for example, Saturday, 18th August 2022. The details can also be worded in written English rather than numbers, for example, Saturday, the eighteenth of August, two thousand and twenty two, which often is the preference in North America.

The time of the wedding follows and can be written one of three ways e.g. 2pm, 2:00 p.m. or 2 o'clock and for North American invitations, as per the date, it's written in full, for example, at two o'clock in the afternoon.

And of course, most importantly, include the wedding ceremony venue and reception location and any reception details such as start and end time, for example, Carriages at 11.30pm.


Invitation Grammar

There are a few other things to point out concerning wedding invite grammar. Only capitalise the start of a line when it is also the beginning of a sentence. You should though of course capitalise names (places and people) and dates. Also you don't need to end lines in full stops or commas (except when applying them to a date and address where necessary).

Please note, the wording on our sample invites is just for reference only - always let us know how you would like your invites worded so we can personalise your invitation just for you.